Unfaithful or body self-ownership

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Monogamy, the preferred societal relationship status, means to own the body of another.

Sexuality is an instinct, a requirement and necessity and sex can also be a complement. Having lovers, alongside the primary relationship, is more life affirming and deeply honest than being unfaithful, something our societal ideas of love are setting us up to be, over and over, because monogamy is not natural, not for women either.

Being horny is a powerful, and very, natural every day, state of being, for men and for women. We use this energy in creative ways, not just for the physical act of sex. We do stuff with this energy, we express ourselves through art, through work with this energy, and sometimes we meet and click with someone instantly, briefly or long term, despite being taken /owned, and act on it, sometimes just that once and sometimes it grows.

Does being unfaithful mean you don’t really love the person you are taken/owned by? No, it just means you’re following the natural laws of love, whether it’s a brief sex encounter or a longer commitment encounter.

That women should have a lower sex drive than men is a cultural construct to keep women being owned rather than loved for more than the taught reasons of what love is.

What is love? Is ownership an expression of love or an expression of a diseased society in need of change?  Why do we think jealousy means someone cares when compersion, the opposite of jealousy really does mean someone loves you enough to let you go, according to your heart and sometimes horniness?

Could a multi partner relationship/family be better for all involved, when ownership is taken out of the equation and the only thing left is love, real love that’s caught not taught.

Isn’t a healthy relationship one that goes deep, deeper than we have been taught to go?

Can you own the right to another person’s body without being a slave owner? Is it love to commit to just one person and promise never to love another, or is it madness? Does loving one at a time and in sequence make love more pure, holy, real?

Is unfaithfulness a natural expression of love’s limitlessness, and should deep honesty be part of any love deal instead of the restrictions we impose on each other today?

In today’s quest for gender equality, isn’t time for women to allow ourselves to feel all that we feel, to stop settling for less than we want. Men have always followed their desire, Love would let women follow theirs too.

Warriors of Change: Sent(enced) to School

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When Milla is sent(enced) to six years in secondary school her unrecognised school-itis gets worse.

“It’s a real disease,” Milla insists who has survived early puberty and two uncompleted suicides due to being forced to become who she isn’t.

“No, I’m not bullied, sometimes it’s “just” school.” But she can’t let her parents go to prison again. She meets Sky, a homeschooled, disabled boy who self medicates on laughter and Sunny, a girl of unusual origin who insists she’s Milla’s guardian angel. “You’re more powerful than you know,” she says and Milla listens as the animals whose powers she has always been fascinated by suddenly comes to life through her.

Together with her Irish twin brother, Torsten, the foursome takes on school in a battle to regain the deeds to their own lives.  Will their unusual ideas for new reasons to live be heard? Is school really a monster? Can you flirt with a ghost? Milla has more answers than questions, but that’s a vital part of her life. Will she be allowed to become who she is or made to fall back into line and follow the mass schooling?

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Writing determination when writing in one’s second language

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When I started to write again, I thought it was going to be easy, but taking the decision to write in English instead of my mother tongue Swedish has been anything but easy. I didn’t realise that written English is a different language from spoken English.

I’ve always written, for fun, but when I started to write with the intention to get published fun wasn’t always the reason I continued to write, getting to know myself was one, going on adventures I would never had gone on otherwise another— a desire for writing and imagination can take you anywhere.

I’ve done every mistake a new writer can do, and a few more. One of the best writing advices I never got was, write for yourself for a few years; write to find out who you are as a writer.

Writing changed my life; my writing has had more impact on my life than my life on my writing.

There is no better reflection of reality than fiction; it’s a wider angle of truth. I love spiritual fiction/fantasy, also visionary fiction/fantasy, plus surprise, surprise; erotica, spiritual erotica.

I also love real life stories, and I truly believe that storytelling can change the world; there isn’t anyone you couldn’t love if you heard their story.

I’m as proud of finishing my first novel as I am for not giving up, for stubbornly continuing to learn the art of writing in my second language. There truly is a lot of learning in failure.