Monogamy, the preferred societal relationship status, means to own the body of another.
Sexuality is an instinct, a requirement and necessity and sex can also be a complement. Having lovers, alongside the primary relationship, is more life affirming and deeply honest than being unfaithful, something our societal ideas of love are setting us up to be, over and over, because monogamy is not natural, not for women either.
Being horny is a powerful, and very, natural every day, state of being, for men and for women. We use this energy in creative ways, not just for the physical act of sex. We do stuff with this energy, we express ourselves through art, through work with this energy, and sometimes we meet and click with someone instantly, briefly or long term, despite being taken /owned, and act on it, sometimes just that once and sometimes it grows.
Does being unfaithful mean you don’t really love the person you are taken/owned by? No, it just means you’re following the natural laws of love, whether it’s a brief sex encounter or a longer commitment encounter.
That women should have a lower sex drive than men is a cultural construct to keep women being owned rather than loved for more than the taught reasons of what love is.
What is love? Is ownership an expression of love or an expression of a diseased society in need of change? Why do we think jealousy means someone cares when compersion, the opposite of jealousy really does mean someone loves you enough to let you go, according to your heart and sometimes horniness?
Could a multi partner relationship/family be better for all involved, when ownership is taken out of the equation and the only thing left is love, real love that’s caught not taught.
Isn’t a healthy relationship one that goes deep, deeper than we have been taught to go?
Can you own the right to another person’s body without being a slave owner? Is it love to commit to just one person and promise never to love another, or is it madness? Does loving one at a time and in sequence make love more pure, holy, real?
Is unfaithfulness a natural expression of love’s limitlessness, and should deep honesty be part of any love deal instead of the restrictions we impose on each other today?
In today’s quest for gender equality, isn’t time for women to allow ourselves to feel all that we feel, to stop settling for less than we want. Men have always followed their desire, Love would let women follow theirs too.